Archive | December 20, 2011

The Second Wife

The tradition they have has given me this confusing thought. A man marrying more than one woman is acceptable, provided both are Muslim. I have no profound idea about the Muslim belief but in a simple thought of the situation I realized that this tradition does not show love toward fellow believers. Why did I bring out this issue, anyway?

A colleague will get marry to a family man. She told me she is very happy because the man already informed his wife and they can get married. I said no words out of her decision but behind my mind, I detest her for what she did. For me, she is selfish and un-sensible woman. How could she be happy when someone behind her is miserable because she took away a husband and a father? How could she truly experience the essence of a wife if she knows she hurt the real one? How could she explain to her future children that their father has another family that she ruined?

I might have been so pessimistic about the situation and got carried away with my thoughts, but realistically speaking, if your going to ask the first wife if she is happy to the second marriage of her husband, you cannot get an answer with a genuine smile, even the children with full of material support from a father. The presence of the husband and father to a family is more precious than any material things. Children who adore the father will be most affected.

I am not in the position to judge the second wife, just that questions of morality always follows to me. If you have empathy toward your fellow, would you let them feel miserable because you want to be happy? What if it will happen to you, how would you feel also? I remember a passage from the bible that said; “Anything you sow, you will reap. You sow goodness and you will reap it. You sow badness; it will come back to you.” This is one of the principles in life that most of the time forgotten by anybody.

Lastly, I really felt sorry for the wife and children who were deprived of chances to live happily with an undivided attention of a father.